Comments on: Barren or Baby?

By: singlemominthecity

singlemominthecity — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 21:12:00 +0000

You are right. I love my children. I marvel in their development everyday. I show them off to my friends and family. I feel blessed to have them in my life. I show them love. I know they are aware that I love them dearly and that I cherish them. But, is it really all about me? and whether I can see my life without them?

I am not the center of their universe. At least not when it takes a another to create them. They are missing that other half. I can not sell them the belief then my love is good enough for two. I can not stop them from feeling rejected by the other non-present half. They had no choice in the matter.

They depend on me to make decisions that are in their best interest. Again I ask, is going at it alone really what’s in the best interest of the child?

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By: the Super Sistah

the Super Sistah — Tue, 12 Jul 2011 14:29:00 +0000

Single mom,
Given a magic wand and a time machine, would you have chosen to be childless rather than raise your children alone? It’s a hard question given that you love your kids and they are already here but answer the best you can for those of us who have yet to make the leap and are weighing our options.

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By: singlemominthecity

singlemominthecity — Tue, 12 Jul 2011 14:09:00 +0000

As a single parent of two beautiful children, I’m of the belief that two parents are better than one. You don’t realize this until the child wakes up in the middle of the night crying because little Billy or Brittany was teasing him or her at school about their Dad not showing up for the special father child event they had at school. Or they are subjected to cruel stories of adventures other children have had on Father’s Day (which comes every year without fail). Sure, you can always find a male stand in but that’s all it will be: a stand in. A child knows the difference.

It breaks my heart every time I have to see this. Every time I have to experience this. Yes, divorce happens and people separate all the time. However, I believe if the initial foundation for bringing this child into the world is strong (ie marriage) there is a better fighting chance that when Daddy separates from Mommy he will not leave little baby blue (or brown) eyes behind to celebrate Father’s Day alone.

Think it through. Is going at it alone really what’s in the best interest of the child?

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By: the Super Sistah

the Super Sistah — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 14:26:00 +0000

Ms.Curvy, I feel for you. Like you, I had a break-up with a fiance and my first thought after the crying and the tears was that he had robbed me of my baby-making options. I too thought maybe having a baby to show for the relationship wouldn’t have been a tragedy. I think kids need both parents but I still can’t decide like you said if, ‘a baby would have been so bad.’ Jury is still out. Please don’t despair. It’s not too late to be a mommy in all sorts of ways, you just have to weigh your convictions and your options.

It’s dude’s loss. You’re way more Super without him.

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By: the Super Sistah

the Super Sistah — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 19:57:50 +0000

It’s dude’s loss. You’re way more Super without him.

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By: Curvychick

Curvychick — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 17:54:00 +0000

I totally can relate to this post. At 41 years old, the bell toll is clanging at an alarming rate. And, my fiance just finally admitted he is getting married to someone else. Now I feel like all of my preparations were for naught. My friends are like, “at least he didn’t leave you as a baby mama”. Now, that doesn’t seem so bad.

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