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Insincerely Sorry

I’m sorry, so sorry, that I was such a fool. Brenda Lee’s song is sung plaintively with the tone and tenor of overall remorse. These days; however, in an era of overwhelming hatred and intolerance, people, after saying or doing some real hateful sh*t, now have the get out of jail free loophole called the apology. Now after being cruel all that is required for a clean slate is to ramp up the acting skills and say, I’m sorry, so sorry, that I was such a fool, and all is forgiven. Not likely. Brenda Lee’s goes on to say that, mistakes are part of being young but that don’t right the wrong that’s been done. I agree with Ms. Lee and this doubly applies to those who are old as hell and should know better.

I for one am not on the side of the pc folks who believe that people should keep their hateful thoughts to themselves. Nope, I think they should speak up and loudly. They should bellow and spew their discontent so everyone from miles can hear and identify them. Spout as much ignorance as all our ears and hearts can take that way we’ll know who we’re up against. I don’t want racists and misogynist to pretend. I want them waving their hate flag high. The haters have gone underground now because of social pressure. Inevitably of course, they have a lapse and are socially reprimanded for their wicked tongues. When this happens their not worried because they now know just what to do to smooth things over. What you ask? You guessed it. Say sorry.


That’s it?

I know it’s what our mothers taught us to do when we did something wrong but mom wanted us to wear our sorry on our souls not just our sleeves. Our sorrys were supposed to evoke change in us and reflection. Not just words said over airwaves to save endorsement deals or salaries. Case in point, Andy Cohen, host of Watch What Happens Live, recently called 16 year old Amandla Stenberg a jack-hole for some hair beef she had with the constantly controversial Kylie Jenner. No matter one’s take on the matter, to me, it was a disagreement between children with a side order of cultural commentary. Andy decided to get all up in it and criticize Amandla for having her say. How he did this was by calling the young black teen names. After social media let the fur fly, Andy said he was sorry. Was he? He said he was but I’m not buying it. Andy, like all of us, is entitled to his own opinion but let kids be kids and let their squabbles not result in schoolyard name calling from adults way past puberty.

People hate. Lots of individuals do it privately. I personally like the Donald Trump approach. He takes his hate to billboards with bright shining lights. He’s not subtle and as a minority I know exactly how he feels about me. He’s not hiding it. He’s a hatemonger with a hairpiece. He’s many things but what he isn’t, is sorry. He doesn’t apologize for anything. He doesn’t care if what he says or does offends people. In a time of duplicity and fake apologies I respect his lack of hypocrisy. If you hate me, I want to see you coming.

So for the sake of clarity, for those who dislike me and have said so openly don’t backpedal and apologize, I promise I won’t shed a tear. Stand firm in your dislike and keep talking trash. I’ll show you sorry. I got your sorry right here.



About the Author

Stephanie Small, Sistah & Superhero! Author, Educator, Personal Growth Coach & wannabe Superhero! Author of Black Girl's Guide to Winning at Love & Life! (Available on Amazon.com, B&N and Kobo)

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