Author Stephanie Small aka the SuperSistah on She Struts Radio!
Readers, fans, and the entire Super Sistah family, come join me on Thursday, March 17th @ 6:30pm on the She Struts Radio program hosted by Debora M. Ricks. The host and I plan to sit and chat about love, life, the book: Black Girl’s Guide to Winning at Love & Life and what it means […]
Tags: black women, blog talk radio, Break-ups, Cheating, Confidence, Dating, Diet & Exercise, Faith, Family, Fighting Fear, Girl Power, Interracial, Marriage, Men, Race, Relationships, Self-Confidence, Self-Help Books, Success
Black Girls Rock?
With shame and regret I admit that when it aired the first time I missed it. I forgot it was on. I didn’t watch it as I should have but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a comment on the commentary floating around the internet pertaining to the show Black Girl Rock. Lord, help me […]
Tags: BET, black girl magic, Black Girls Rock, black women, Confidence, feminism, Girl Power, Music, Self-Confidence, Sisterhood, Strength
Trimming the Tree
I don’t know about you but I’m not a dedicated personal groomer. I floss, bathe, shave and keep myself clean and looking my best, but I’m against spending hours in the salon or makeup chair. I scorn the idea of Saturdays wasted getting mani-pedi’s, waxing, plucking or pulling hair out of everywhere. Weekends are for […]
Tags: Beauty, grooming, Hygiene, Personal Care, Self-Confidence
Fear of Failing
Some people are afraid of heights. While I understand their anxiety, looking down doesn’t bother me. It’s falling down that produces all the terror. ~ the Super Sistah ‘I’m failing.’ I recently admitted to a family member. ‘How can you be a failure?’ She asked in a tone that suggested I was being ridiculous. ‘You’re […]
Tags: competition, Confidence, Failure, Fighting Fear, Personal Power, Self-Confidence, Success
Dating The Do
For black women, getting our hair done is a process. The undertaking can take hours and in some extreme cases, days. To tame and coerce our hair into a style that is acceptable by society’s standards requires a sacrifice of time and money. If a man, any man, plans to date a black woman he […]
Tags: Black Hair, black women, Confidence, Dating, Hair, Love, Relationships, Self-Confidence, Sisterhood, Weave
Birthday Cake Blues
Operator: 911 what is your emergency? Caller: My birthday cake is on fire. Operator: Ma’am, stop calling here. Tomorrow is my birthday. When my friends asked me how I felt about yet another year added to my age, I answered: I ain’t dead yet. I didn’t say greaatttttt, like cereal box Tony the Tiger. I […]
Tags: Age, Birthdays, black women, God, Identity, Self-Confidence
Scaredy Cat ~ Are You a Fear-Fighter or a Fraud?
The world is a big bad place and it’s frightening. Everything we want to do as human beings requires a courageous spirit that many of us do not have. To get up in the morning and face the world requires a brave face. To get the things we want, we have to fight and do […]
Tags: Confidence, courage, Fighting Fear, Personal Power, Self-Confidence, Strength, Success
A dear friend of mine recently celebrated his 40th year on the earth with a big, splashy birthday bash. For someone who remembers sixteen clearly that number seems huge. It hovers around the corner taunting me with the knowledge that I will eventually be that age in the next 10, 5, 4, 2 years, months, […]
Tags: Aging, Bithdays, old school, Self-Confidence, Style
Fat or BabyPhat?
A few days ago on Yahoo I read that by the year 2030 more than 50% of the population will be clinically obese. Lord help us all if a Big Mac and fries becomes the meal of choice. Specifically the health of black women has been on my mind. I often wonder if women of […]
Tags: black women, Diet & Exercise, Self-Confidence, Weight
Recently, I casually asked my dermatologist about one day getting Botox. He laughed in my face. “Go spend your money on something you need” he said and sent me on my way. Is he blind? Doesn’t he see the lines I see? Every year I write a birthday post (See Old Dog, New Tale) because […]
Tags: Aging, Birthday, black women, Confidence, Diet & Exercise, Girl Power, Self-Confidence, Super-Heroes
Back in the day if a man loved a woman he gave her father a horse, a cow and two mules. In them days, the price of your “PRECIOUS” to quote Gollum, cost a damn sight more than some chocolates and a Hallmark card. Men understood that for the benefit of a lady’s time he […]
Tags: Black Love, black women, Break-ups, Dating, Love, Marriage, Men, Self-Confidence, Sex, Super-Heroes, Valentine's Day
I’m attempting to get my self-help/dating book published. It’s curious then that when I sprinted out of work on Friday I wasn’t running to catch a hot man for a hot date but to catch the library. My dating life in New York City might seem obscene to some and downright dismal to others. How […]
Tags: Black Love, black women, Break-ups, Dating, Love, Men, Relationships, Self-Confidence, Sex, Super-Heroes